When trying to be charming over text, remember that the person you're texting is a real, unique human being. Avoid viewing them as a "conquest" or focusing on what you want to get from them. Instead, show genuine interest in them as an individual, listen carefully, and pay attention to their responses.
Here are eight ways to be charming over text — and eight common mistakes to avoid:
1. Be Funny
Do: Humor goes a long way in building a connection, so share lighthearted jokes.
Don’t: Avoid sarcasm or edgy humor, as it can come across as rude or off-putting.
2. Be Open
Do: Be genuine and show a bit of your personality.
Don’t: Avoid being overly vulnerable or emotionally intense early on.
3. Ask Questions
Do: Show curiosity by asking about their life.
Don’t: Avoid making them feel interrogated; too many questions can be overwhelming.
4. Send Face Snaps (if on Snapchat)
Do: Send a casual selfie or fun snap to build rapport.
Don’t: Never send inappropriate photos without explicit consent.
5. Flirt When Appropriate
Do: Light flirting can help, especially if you sense mutual interest.
Don’t: Avoid overly bold or offensive texts early on; it might make them feel objectified.
6. Text Regularly, Not Excessively
Do: Maintain regular, casual contact if they're receptive.
Don’t: Don’t bombard them with messages if they’re not responding.
7. Reply When You Have Time to Engage
Do: Wait until you can give a thoughtful reply.
Don’t: Avoid leaving them "on read"; it can seem dismissive.
8. Make Plans to Meet (If They're Interested)
Do: If things are going well, suggest meeting up in a laid-back way.
Don’t: Don’t pressure them to meet in person before they're ready.
Frequently Asked Questions
Should I text, DM, or Snapchat?
Use whatever platform feels natural to you and where they are active. Don’t download an app just to connect with them; it might come off as desperate.
When should I tell them I like them?
Wait until you feel confident they see you as a friend and enjoy your company. Test the waters with friendly compliments before jumping into romance.
Is it okay to screenshot texts or selfies?
Generally, no. If you want to save something cute, ask first. And never share it with others without permission.
How long should I wait before replying?
Instant replies are fine, but don’t feel pressured to respond right away every time. Just avoid leaving them on read.
How often should I reach out?
Daily check-ins are fine if it feels natural. If they seem less responsive, give it a bit more time between messages.
Final Thought
Ultimately, be genuine, respectful, and kind. Let the conversation unfold naturally and focus on building a real connection.
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