Fahima is my just friend. Nothing else. I see her as my sister. It is not right to think that I will do something bad with him just because we are moving together. They are the work of ugly people.
- Look Zahid, it is not permissible in Islam to have an extramarital relationship with a foreign girl like this.
From these the path of fornication is revealed. Allah Himself has said in this regard, "Do not go near the edge of fornication." [1]
Noteworthy, Allah He did not say that do not commit zina but said that do not go to the place where zina starts. Because Allah knows very well that if he gets close to Zina, he will commit Zina.
That is why Allah has already forbidden to go near adultery. And a foreign woman is admitted to the main gate of the zina only by saying hi, hello, or just friend.
Moreover, if the boys and girls who are alien by nature are together, they areThere will be attraction. This is normal. And such illicit attraction outside of marriage takes the form of zina.
As a result, there cannot be anything called just friends between a stranger man and woman. These words are nothing but a trick of Satan.
- Ah, this is your only problem. If the boy and girl are the same, you bring up the issue of zina. I don't understand why these silly thoughts come to your mind. Who told you to create attraction?
Why, are boys and girls the same?Can't keep up? What will become worse if we continue to be one? Will the attraction come? Zina will do?
How are these things, brother? How do you go with such a bad mentality? Only if a person's mind is clear. The screen of the mind is a big screen. Do you understand?
- So what is the need to wear clothes?
Instead of spending so much money to buy clothes and wear them, it is better to wear them in your heart and become a Nengtu. Because the clothes of the mind are bigclothes
Similarly, what is the need to cook and eat food with such difficulty? It is only if you eat it in your heart. Mind food is big food. They are much simpler. right?
Ayman, are you talking nonsense? These are some things!
– Why not? For you, if the veil of the mind becomes a big veil without wearing a veil, why won't the clothes of the mind become a big veil without wearing clothes? I questioned your reasoning!
– Yeh means…
– Yeh means What, tell me? Do you know what your problem is? Your problem is that you are a drunkard.
If something goes in your favor, you understand it, and if it goes against you, you pretend not to understand, give it a laugh.
Hypocrisy at its best. However, now you tell me a little, what does attractive mean?
- What does such a sudden question mean?
- Oh boy, don't say.
- Greed is mainly created in the thing that has attraction. Alluring means moreattractive Moreover, anything that has no attraction cannot be attractive. right?
- You said this beautifully. Well! Now say, who created man?
- I do not understand, what did you start all this? What is the meaning of asking random questions one after the other?
- Oh, why are you excited? I didn't say anything to get excited here.
- So what is your question about who created man? God created man.Everyone knows this. Do you ask someone about such a thing?
- Yes, that's right, man is God's creation - we all know that. Now who is the creator of man, should we not obey his instructions about man?
- Yes, of course. But what happened now?
- The creator of man, Allah Ta'ala Himself said that He has made seven things tempting for man. The seven things that are attractive to people,At the beginning of things that is said is the love of women. [2]
As you said yourself, to make something attractive is to make it more attractive. And if you approach something attractive, you will be attracted - this is natural.
Now, where the creator of man, Allah Ta'ala, Himself has told us that when men and women associate together, there will be attraction between them, how can you talk about that attraction easily?Can you dismiss or deny attraction?
Does the creator not know what happens to his creation?
Where Allah Ta'ala Himself has said, women have been made alluring i.e. attractive, then there is no room for any Muslim to have any doubts about the attraction of being with a woman.
And that attraction mainly leads to bad deeds.
That is why the great Rabbul Alamin is from that illegal attraction He introduced the veil as an instruction to live.
In order to protect men and women from such illicit attraction, Allah has made veiling mandatory, restraining one's gaze and guarding one's private parts.
Now on what basis can you say that you and Fahima will move together but there will be no attraction between you and nothing bad will happen as a result?
Hey Mia! Satan that Do you understand the drum playing on your head?
If you say that if you go with a prostitute like Fahima, nothing will happen to you, doesn't it mean that you mean, if you go with her, you will not have any attraction, which is the name of denying the verse of Allah. Do you understand how serious this is?
Besides, doesn't saying you have no attraction to him indicate that you are wiser than the Creator?you went Nowjubillah! Attraction and repulsion are under your control.
If someone says that he is not attracted after having sex with a prostitute, there can be two main reasons behind this.
Either he doesn't feel sexually attracted because he has a sexual problem, or he doesn't want to admit his sexual attraction.
And those who do that, I call them crooks in a slightly harsher language. Because they want the real thing Hides it but actually indulges in bad deeds.
Sometimes these Kulangars are caught in various misdeeds and become the headlines of newspapers.
- Actually friend Ayman, I have no doubts about the truth of your words. I was fooled by Satan into free mixing.
Whether we admit it or not, and no matter how much we pretend, women are really attractive things.We cling to them because they are attractive things.I like to associate with them.
- You have come to the bata line. Thank you so much for putting down your ego and admitting the truth. In fact, there are many idiots in our society who do not want to understand this.
Inye Binye wants to speak in favor of free mixing, claiming to be honest. They do not want to admit that they expose the path of zina.
Just as the fox aims to enjoy the chicken, the chicken wants freedomSimilarly, there are some men in our society who want the freedom of women to come out of the house for the purpose of enjoying women.
- You didn't say it wrong at all, friend.
- Zahid, now I tell you something. Although you may hate to hear that, I have to say it to make you realize how serious your statement 'we are just friends' was.
- What's up, tell me to listen?
- If your sister and I walk together today Say we are just friends then can you accept my friendship with your sister?
Can you keep yourself normal then?
Walking with your sister, cuddling together, talking, chatting, if I say I see her as my sister, can you bear it?
Zahid said in an angry manner, what are you talking about? I hate to think about them. Look Ayman, you are my friendYou can't say what you are. Speak with calculation. It is a crime for me to say such things.
- What's the matter, I see you are turning red with anger. I have already said that this will not sound good, but I could not say no.
Hey boy! If this is your situation with my little words, then think for a moment, the girl with whom you are just walking around hand in hand, talking on the phone, just for the sake of a friend,That girl you are chatting day and night in the inbox is someone's sister, that girl is someone's daughter - right?
Now where you can't accept the matter with your own sister, instead of calling it awkward, why wouldn't it be awkward if the same thing happened to someone else's sister? Then why would it not be an abomination?
As Zahid was silent, Ayman asked, what happened, you are not giving any answer? Did you say 'we are just' then?Aren't the words 'friends' awkward?
Where you criminalize someone's extra-marital friendship with your own sister, doesn't your extra-marital friendship with someone else's sister fall under the category of crime?
Zahid lowered his head and said, "Yes, I mean..... actually, friend, don't shame me anymore, please." I am already a shy boy. I can't stand shame at all.
The thing is, I never thought of it the way you said Nor has anyone ever come and told me so. What to tell the truth!
No self-respecting boy who can think about what you say can continue a relationship with another girl for the sake of 'just friends'. I can't either.
– That's Like a Good Boy. I wanted you to have this understanding. Alhamdulillah, that happened.
Listen friend Zahid! Let me tell you another thing, something of every thing in this world There are rules. If you break the rules, you will face losses.
For example, if a car driver says that I will continue to drive along the middle of the road without maintaining any side of the road, then he will surely destroy himself. Because the rules of the one who gave the rules of driving have not been obeyed here.
Similarly, Allah the Exalted has given us a rule that alien men and women should refrain from illicit attraction to each other.Will continue to protect the screen to survive.
Now if someone ignores this rule and breaks the rule by saying something of his own mind like just friend words, then he will be involved in activities like zina and will lead himself to destruction. There is no doubt about it.
- If it wasn't for you, I wouldn't have known that someone can explain it like this, friend. Your words really touched my heart.
It does not seem possible to convince anyone better than this.I realize now that I didn't do the job right, not at all.
At the same time, I now understand the importance of screens.
- Ma Sha Allah! This is how well my friend realized his mistake. Look Zahid, one hadith is enough to understand how horrible it is to have sex with or touch a stranger.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) warned more and more strongly that a woman is unlawful for a personIt is better to drive an iron nail into the head than to touch it. [3]
Do you understand what this means, Zahid? This means, first of all, harming one's own body is completely prohibited and haram.
But if the matter of touching a prostitute comes up, in that case it is much better for you to hit yourself as hard as an iron nail in the head, but you cannot touch a prostitute.
And this is clearly evident Maybe touching a prostitute is not a common sin. This is a Kabira Gonah of a very heinous level.
Had it not been a grave sin, the Prophet (PBUH) would not have encouraged us to self-harm in such a context, despite the Qur'an-Hadith prohibiting self-harm in general.
Therefore, you can understand the ultimate horror of the matter!
- Yes, I understand. I actually never even knew of such a thing before, friend.Since I learned about it today, I promise you that it will never happen again.
- I am very happy to know. All praise be to the Lord who has given us the opportunity to understand the matter. Alhamdulillah!
It would be great if everyone could understand this way.
However, may Allah Ta'ala help all our brothers and sisters like you to understand the right thing at the right time. Amen!
The Real Courage:
True strength is not proving you can stand near temptation.
True strength is walking away before it begins.
Admitting,
“Yes… attraction exists.”
“Yes… I am human.”
“Yes… I need boundaries.”
That is not weakness.
That is maturity.
Let’s not normalize what Allah warned us about.
Let’s not decorate the path that leads to regret.
Instead, let’s choose dignity over desire.
Clarity over confusion.
Halal over temporary thrill.
And if this reminder touched your heart even a little —
share it. Not to judge others, but to protect them.
Because sometimes the most loving thing you can say to a friend is:
“Brother… sister… we are not ‘just friends.’”
May Allah protect our hearts, guard our gaze, and keep our intentions pure. Ameen. π€
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Reference:
>Surah Bani Israel, verse no:32
> Surah AleImran, Verse No:14
> Hadith Collection, Hadith No: 2662
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